Going to be at home almost 24/7 365

Hello all.

Yesterday my son came home from his surgery, he has a port implanted because it makes chemo easier and he’s going to be receiving treatment until he leaves this planet.

I’ve been basically told I have to leave work so I can care for him and my wife. Money is going to be a nightmare, socialising less will also suck, but family always comes first.

So, for others who stay at home almost 24/7, apart from Xbox, what do you do in your spare time to keep yourself sane?

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Sorry to hear that, man. You seem to be doing the right thing for your family.

Home improvement projects, crafts, drawing, yard work. Taking pictures. Reading. Comic books/graphic novels are good. Calvin and Hobbes is my go to.

I took my kids for a walk every day during quarantine. Not sure how feasible that is for you given your situation and with winter approaching. Making some time for the outdoors is important though.

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I’m so sorry to hear that @bluehawk

My wife was undergoing chemo while pregnant with our second child and I spent every moment I could at home looking after her and eventually the baby when she was too ill to.

Like Otter mentioned I found myself reading lots and listening to music, so I could be with them even if they were sleeping or dozing. I had lots of graphic novels to read also. Though my wife was often way to sick to eat I used to cook a lot so that she would have food when she felt up to it and I could pass it around our friends and family when I had too much. I also tried to make a schedule even if not particularly regimented to avoid just sitting and passively browsing online of otherwise just “existing”. This also helped me when it came to sleeping. Aside from that I just tried doing all I could “together”, drawing and painting, playing with modelling clay and trying to make sure everyone felt like a family. Those little bead things you place on a spikey board then iron together is a great way to make pixel art together.

Well done for being there for your family, With love, sincerely, C.

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This is heartbreaking to read :frowning:

I have little to offer in terms of advice, beyond something I feel you already know - cherish every moment you get.

Wishing all the very best to you and your family. :green_heart:

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This is heartbreaking my friend. Best advice I can give you is to find time where you can depress, mediate, and clear your mind. I try to take short walks by myself just so my mind can unwind.

I have no words for this.

I would say I can relate because my stepfather had been fighting prostate cancer ever since mid 2018 and passed away August this year, but a son? Jesus, no I can’t imagine.

I wish you all the happiness there still is, make every moment count, make it special, play games with him and most of all try to keep your head up.